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At the end of our lives, what do we most wish for? For many, it’s simply comfort, respect, love. BJ Miller is a hospice and palliative medicine physician who thinks deeply about how to create a dignified, graceful end of life for his patients. Take the time to savor this moving talk, which asks big questions about how we think on death and honor life.

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BJ Miller · Palliative care physician
Using empathy and a clear-eyed view of mortality, BJ Miller shines a light on healthcare’s most ignored facet: preparing for death.


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For most people, the scariest thing about death isn’t being dead, it’s dying, suffering. It’s a key distinction.

We know from research what’s most important to people who are closer to death: comfort; feeling unburdened and unburdening to those they love; existential peace; and a sense of wonderment and spirituality.

So much of life comes down to loving our time by way of the senses, by way of the body — the very thing doing the living and the dying.

As long as we have our senses — even just one — we have at least the possibility of accessing what makes us feel human, connected.

So, if teasing unnecessary suffering out of the system was our first design cue, then tending to dignity by way of the senses, by way of the body — the aesthetic realm — is design cue number two. Now this gets us quickly to the third and final bit for today; namely, we need to lift our sights, to set our sights on well-being, so that life and health and healthcare can become about making life more wonderful, rather than just less horrible.

Here, this gets right at the distinction between a disease-centered and a patient- or human-centered model of care, and here is where caring becomes a creative, generative, even playful act. “Play” may sound like a funny word here. But it is also one of our highest forms of adaptation. Consider every major compulsory effort it takes to be human. The need for food has birthed cuisine. The need for shelter has given rise to architecture. The need for cover, fashion. And for being subjected to the clock, well, we invented music. So, since dying is a necessary part of life, what might we create with this fact? By “play” I am in no way suggesting we take a light approach to dying or that we mandate any particular way of dying. There are mountains of sorrow that cannot move, and one way or another, we will all kneel there. Rather, I am asking that we make space — physical, psychic room, to allow life to play itself all the way out — so that rather than just getting out of the way, aging and dying can become a process of crescendo through to the end. We can’t solve for death.

We can design towards it. Parts of me died early on, and that’s something we can all say one way or another. I got to redesign my life around this fact, and I tell you it has been a liberation to realize you can always find a shock of beauty or meaning in what life you have left, like that snowball lasting for a perfect moment, all the while melting away. If we love such moments ferociously, then maybe we can learn to live well — not in spite of death, but because of it. Let death be what takes us, not lack of imagination.


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Tips for Living a Beautiful Life!

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Enjoy the Ride – Tips for living a beautiful life!

Thirty life lessons that when practiced regularly will bring you a beautiful life. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: ”I am thankful for…” ”Today I accomplished …”

Here Are Some Tips for Living a Beautiful Life!

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day and while you walk, smile.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, ”My purpose is to … today.”

4. Live with the 3 E’s … Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy, and the 3 F’s …Faith, Family, Friends.

5. Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of six.

6. Dream more while you are awake.

7. Try to make at least three people smile each day.


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8. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn, pass all your tests. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

9. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.

10. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

11. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

12. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

13. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagreements

14. Make peace with your past, so it won’t mess up the present.

15. Don’t compare your life with others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

16. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

17. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

18. Forgive everyone for everything.

19. What other people think of you is none of your business.

20. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

21. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

22. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick, your friends will, stay in touch.

23. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

24. The best is yet to come.

25. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

26. Do the right thing!

27. Call your family often.

28. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: ”I am thankful for…” ”Today I accomplished …”

29. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

30. Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. Make the most of it and enjoy the ride.
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