If we can find a way to appreciate the time that we share with those we love, as well as a way to feel good about the time we had when it’s over, then we will have taken a giant step toward our greatest healing. From this perspective, the same principles that allow us to hurt ourselves to death also work in reverse. They offer us the healing power of Life. This key appears to be related to the way we feel about what life shows us.
The Super Moon has a symbolic meaning: The Moon is about the feminine and this Super Moon has literally put the feminine in our collective faces – up close and personal.
An astronomical event, on November 14th, the Super Moon takes place when the Full Moon is what’s known as perigee – i.e. as close it it’s going to come to the Earth for some time. This Super Moon will be 14% closer and 30% brighter than usual.
The Super Moon has a symbolic meaning: The Moon is about the feminine and this Super Moon has literally put the feminine in our collective faces – up close and personal.
We can use the Full Moon to clear yourself out energetically. Since the very beginning when humans have gathered, The Full Moon has stimulated our emotions. It’s one of the reasons why people are said to go ‘loony’ at Full Moon.
With the Super Moon making the Moon loom larger than ever for us now, it’s the right time to do a Full Moon forgiveness ceremony + gratitude at some point this week.
Here are the Super Full Moon times around the world – do your ceremony either side of the lunation.
MONTREAL/NEW YORK: November 14, 8.52am
UTC / LONDON: November 14, 1.52pm
PARIS: November 14, 2.52pm
SYDNEY: November 14, 11.51pm
In the United States, the Moon moon will start to rise on Sunday November 13th at 4:30 pm as dusk starts to settle in. This may be a wonderful time to perform the ceremony. Here is a link to find the Full Moonrise times where you are.
As close to the Full Moon as possible, sit quietly for 10 minutes or so and mentally forgive anyone against whom you hold any kind of grudge or resentment. If there’s anyone who’s getting on your nerves or really upsetting you, ask them to forgive you for your bad feelings and send them love.
Then do the following:
1. Take some deep, cleansing breaths. Release any stress, worries or cares as you breathe.
2. Now think about a habit, a thought pattern, or an idea or an upset that you want to release. It can be more than one. Write it down on a sheet of paper – write as much as you need to, to ‘express’ it.
3. Next, think of anyone who has upset you. You can go right back to your childhood, to anyone who, seemingly, did you wrong and whom you haven’t yet forgiven. List their name(s) on the same sheet of paper, and also write down what it was they did. Write as much as you need to. You have now created a forgiveness list.
4. Close your eyes and visualize each person in turn. See them inside a pink bubble in your mind’s eye (pink is one of the colours of love). See them smiling at you. Create a good feeling between the two of you. Say silently or out loud: ‘I forgive you.’, and then let them float off in their bubble.
5. Now recite the following Full Moon Forgiveness and Karma Release Formula: ‘Under the glorious Full Moon, I forgive everything, everyone, every experience, every memory of the past or present that needs forgiveness. I forgive positively everyone. I also forgive myself of past mistakes. The Universe is love, and I am forgiven and governed by love alone. Love is now adjusting my life. Realizing this, I abide in peace.’
You may wish to add: ‘I bring love and healing to all my thoughts, beliefs and relationships. I learn my lessons and move on. I call on my soul fragments to be cleansed by the Full Moon and I call on them to re-join me. I send love to myself and everyone I know, and everyone who knows me, in all directions of time. Under this glorious Full Moon, I am healed. My life is healed. And so it is. So be it.”
6. Stand over a sink, or anywhere else where you’ll not set fire to the house, and burn your forgiveness list. This ritual releases the energies into the ether for transmutation into love.
Then be sure to spend a good five minutes with your hand on your heart, thinking about someone or something you are truly grateful for. Job done. This is a month ritual which, if you do it with passion, will clear you out energetically so you can better manifest your dreams.
TedTalk by Isaac Lidsky, posted June 2016
Reality isn’t something you perceive; it’s something you create in your mind. Isaac Lidsky learned this profound lesson firsthand, when unexpected life circumstances yielded valuable insights. In this introspective, personal talk, he challenges us to let go of excuses, assumptions and fears, and accept the awesome responsibility of being the creators of our own reality.
When Dorothy was a little girl, she was fascinated by her goldfish. Her father explained to her that fish swim by quickly wagging their tails to propel themselves through the water. Without hesitation, little Dorothy responded, “Yes, Daddy, and fish swim backwards by wagging their heads.”
In her mind, it was a fact as true as any other. Fish swim backwards by wagging their heads. She believed it.
Our lives are full of fish swimming backwards. We make assumptions and faulty leaps of logic. We harbor bias. We know that we are right, and they are wrong. We fear the worst. We strive for unattainable perfection. We tell ourselves what we can and cannot do. In our minds, fish swim by in reverse frantically wagging their heads and we don’t even notice them.
I’m going to tell you five facts about myself. One fact is not true. One: I graduated from Harvard at 19 with an honors degree in mathematics. Two: I currently run a construction company in Orlando. Three: I starred on a television sitcom. Four: I lost my sight to a rare genetic eye disease. Five: I served as a law clerk to two US Supreme Court justices. Which fact is not true? Actually, they’re all true. Yeah. They’re all true.
At this point, most people really only care about the television show.
I know this from experience. OK, so the show was NBC’s “Saved by the Bell: The New Class.” And I played Weasel Wyzell, who was the sort of dorky, nerdy character on the show, which made it a very major acting challenge for me as a 13-year-old boy.
Now, did you struggle with number four, my blindness? Why is that? We make assumptions about so-called disabilities. As a blind man, I confront others’ incorrect assumptions about my abilities every day. My point today is not about my blindness, however. It’s about my vision. Going blind taught me to live my life eyes wide open. It taught me to spot those backwards-swimming fish that our minds create. Going blind cast them into focus.
What does it feel like to see? It’s immediate and passive. You open your eyes and there’s the world. Seeing is believing. Sight is truth. Right? Well, that’s what I thought.
Then, from age 12 to 25, my retinas progressively deteriorated. My sight became an increasingly bizarre carnival funhouse hall of mirrors and illusions. The salesperson I was relieved to spot in a store was really a mannequin. Reaching down to wash my hands, I suddenly saw it was a urinal I was touching, not a sink, when my fingers felt its true shape. A friend described the photograph in my hand, and only then I could see the image depicted. Objects appeared, morphed and disappeared in my reality. It was difficult and exhausting to see. I pieced together fragmented, transitory images, consciously analyzed the clues, searched for some logic in my crumbling kaleidoscope, until I saw nothing at all.
I learned that what we see is not universal truth. It is not objective reality. What we see is a unique, personal, virtual reality that is masterfully constructed by our brain.
Let me explain with a bit of amateur neuroscience. Your visual cortex takes up about 30 percent of your brain. That’s compared to approximately eight percent for touch and two to three percent for hearing. Every second, your eyes can send your visual cortex as many as two billion pieces of information. The rest of your body can send your brain only an additional billion. So sight is one third of your brain by volume and can claim about two thirds of your brain’s processing resources. It’s no surprise then that the illusion of sight is so compelling. But make no mistake about it: sight is an illusion.
Here’s where it gets interesting. To create the experience of sight, your brain references your conceptual understanding of the world, other knowledge, your memories, opinions, emotions, mental attention. All of these things and far more are linked in your brain to your sight. These linkages work both ways, and usually occur subconsciously. So for example, what you see impacts how you feel, and the way you feel can literally change what you see. Numerous studies demonstrate this. If you are asked to estimate the walking speed of a man in a video, for example, your answer will be different if you’re told to think about cheetahs or turtles. A hill appears steeper if you’ve just exercised, and a landmark appears farther away if you’re wearing a heavy backpack. We have arrived at a fundamental contradiction. What you see is a complex mental construction of your own making, but you experience it passively as a direct representation of the world around you. You create your own reality, and you believe it. I believed mine until it broke apart. The deterioration of my eyes shattered the illusion.
You see, sight is just one way we shape our reality. We create our own realities in many other ways. Let’s take fear as just one example. Your fears distort your reality. Under the warped logic of fear, anything is better than the uncertain. Fear fills the void at all costs, passing off what you dread for what you know, offering up the worst in place of the ambiguous, substituting assumption for reason. Psychologists have a great term for it: awfulizing.
Right? Fear replaces the unknown with the awful. Now, fear is self-realizing. When you face the greatest need to look outside yourself and think critically, fear beats a retreat deep inside your mind, shrinking and distorting your view, drowning your capacity for critical thought with a flood of disruptive emotions. When you face a compelling opportunity to take action, fear lulls you into inaction, enticing you to passively watch its prophecies fulfill themselves.
When I was diagnosed with my blinding disease, I knew blindness would ruin my life. Blindness was a death sentence for my independence. It was the end of achievement for me. Blindness meant I would live an unremarkable life, small and sad, and likely alone. I knew it. This was a fiction born of my fears, but I believed it. It was a lie, but it was my reality, just like those backwards-swimming fish in little Dorothy’s mind. If I had not confronted the reality of my fear, I would have lived it. I am certain of that.
So how do you live your life eyes wide open? It is a learned discipline. It can be taught. It can be practiced. I will summarize very briefly.
Hold yourself accountable for every moment, every thought, every detail. See beyond your fears. Recognize your assumptions. Harness your internal strength. Silence your internal critic. Correct your misconceptions about luck and about success. Accept your strengths and your weaknesses, and understand the difference. Open your hearts to your bountiful blessings.
Your fears, your critics, your heroes, your villains — they are your excuses, rationalizations, shortcuts, justifications, your surrender. They are fictions you perceive as reality. Choose to see through them. Choose to let them go. You are the creator of your reality. With that empowerment comes complete responsibility.
I chose to step out of fear’s tunnel into terrain uncharted and undefined. I chose to build there a blessed life. Far from alone, I share my beautiful life with Dorothy, my beautiful wife, with our triplets, whom we call the Tripskys, and with the latest addition to the family, sweet baby Clementine.
What do you fear? What lies do you tell yourself? How do you embellish your truth and write your own fictions? What reality are you creating for yourself?
In your career and personal life, in your relationships, and in your heart and soul, your backwards-swimming fish do you great harm. They exact a toll in missed opportunities and unrealized potential, and they engender insecurity and distrust where you seek fulfillment and connection. I urge you to search them out.
Helen Keller said that the only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision. For me, going blind was a profound blessing, because blindness gave me vision. I hope you can see what I see.
Bruno Giussani: Isaac, before you leave the stage, just a question. This is an audience of entrepreneurs, of doers, of innovators. You are a CEO of a company down in Florida, and many are probably wondering, how is it to be a blind CEO? What kind of specific challenges do you have, and how do you overcome them?
Isaac Lidsky: Well, the biggest challenge became a blessing. I don’t get visual feedback from people.
BG: What’s that noise there? IL: Yeah. So, for example, in my leadership team meetings, I don’t see facial expressions or gestures. I’ve learned to solicit a lot more verbal feedback. I basically force people to tell me what they think. And in this respect, it’s become, like I said, a real blessing for me personally and for my company, because we communicate at a far deeper level, we avoid ambiguities, and most important, my team knows that what they think truly matters.
BG: Isaac, thank you for coming to TED. IL: Thank you, Bruno.
What makes a good life? TedTalk by Robert Waldinger, posted December 2015
What keeps us healthy and happy as we go thru life?
There was a recent survey of millennials and over 80% said that a major life goal for them was to get rich, and another 50% said that another major life goal was to become famous.
And we are constantly told to lean into to work, to push harder and achieve more. We are given the impression that these are the things we need to go after in order to have a good life.
The Harvard study of adult development may be the the longest study of adult life that has ever been done. The clearest message that we get from this 75 year old study is this…
Good relationships keep us happier and healthier, PERIOD!
So the second big lesson that we learned is that it is not just the number of friends you have and it is not whether or not you are in a committed relationship, but it is the quality of your close relationships that matter.
The third big lesson that we learned about relationships and our health is that good relationships don’t just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.
Relationships are messy and are complicated. And the hard work of tending to family and friends is not sexy or glamorous, it’s also life long, it never ends.
Just like the millennials in that recent survey, many of our men when they were starting out as young adults really believed that fame and wealth and high achievement is what they need to go after to have a good life.
But over and over, over these 75 years our study has shown that the people that faired the best were the people who leaned into relationships with family, with friends, with community.
I’d like to close with a quote from Mark Twain:
“There isn’t time. So brief is life for bickerings, appologies, heart burnings callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant, so to speak, for that.”
Replace your expectations for appreciation, it will change your life!
“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes instantly.” ~ Tony Robbins
If you want to have fulfillment, I am not talking about achievement, I understand achievement is a set of other principles, but to be fulfilled, trade your expectation for what? … for Appreciation, it changes your whole life.
Expectation is just like an opinion — everyone has one — and they don’t always match up to the other person’s thoughts. Bickering can be born of of this which is a problem.
Fortunately, there is a solution! When our focus is squared center on our differences in expectations, rather than our appreciation for the things the other person does “right,” conflict is always inevitable. The way any two people decide to fold the towels, for instance, will probably differ… but does that make one of the ways wrong? Of course not. Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration, which leads to…you guessed it, bickering.
That sentiment can apply to anything in life, but if we apply that same thought to our relationships, appreciation can be the trigger that puts an end to your relationship bickering for good.
Enjoy this compilation of Jim Carrey’s wisdom. Sure to be the most beneficial 4 minutes of your day!
Jim Carrey – Meaning in Life (Transcript)
I watched the affect of my fathers love and humor and how it altered the world around me, and I thought, that’s something to do. That’s something worth my time.
When I was about 28, after a decade as a comedian, I realized one night in LA that the purpose of my life has always been to free people from concern, just like my Dad. I did something that made people present their best selves to me wherever I go.
How will you serve the world? What do they need that your talent can provide? That’s all you have to figure out.
I can tell you from experience, the affect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is.
Because ultimately, we are not the avatars we create. We are not the pictures on the film
stock. We are the light that shines thru. All else is just smoke and mirrors, distracting but not truly compelling.
That piece that we are after, lies somewhere beyond personality, beyond the perception of others, beyond invention of the skies, even beyond effort itself.
You can join the game, fight the wars, play with form all you want… but to find real peace you have to live beyond your ability.
Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines thru the form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.
I have often said that I wish people could realize all their dreams, wealth and fame so they can see it is not where you are going to find your sense of completion.
Like many of you, I was concerned about going out into the world and doing something bigger than myself. Until someone smarter than
myself made me realize that there is nothing bigger than myself.
Our eye are not viewers, they are also projectors, that are running a second story over the picture that we see in front of us all of the time. Fear is writing that script. The working title is “I’ll Never Be Enough.”
It’s just a matter of making a choice of perceiving challenges as something beneficial, so that I can deal with them in the most productive way.
You will come up with your own style, that’s part of the fun.
“Life doesn’t happen to you, life happens for you.”
“You only ever have two choices, Love or fear, choose Love, and don’t ever let fear turn you against your playful heart. All what will be left of you is what was in your heart.”
“My soul is not contained within the limit of my body, my body is contained within the limitless of my soul.”
“You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance at doing what you do love.”
“Relax and dream up a good life.”
You can spend a whole life imagining ghost, worrying about the pathway to the future, but all there will ever be is what is happening here and the decisions that we make in this moment which are based on either Love or fear.
So many of us choose our lives out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect so we never dare to ask the Universe for it. I am saying, I am the proof that you can ask the Universe for it.